Self-Screening Quiz: Couples Counseling or Discernment Counseling?

Important: This quiz is meant to be completed separately by each partner. Answer the questions from your perspective only, not on behalf of your partner.

1. Has divorce (or separation) been openly discussed as a real option?

Yes

2. How would you best describe your commitment to the relationship right now?

I am committed and motivated to work on the relationship

Both of us are committed to making this work

I am unsure if I want to stay in the relationship

3. Do you and your partner both want to try counseling at this time?

Yes, we are both motivated

No, one of us feels hesitant, ambivalent, or resistant

4. What best describes your situation?

Married / children / promised lifelong commitment

Committed but not lifelong

5. How would you describe the level of distress in your relationship?

We are struggling but still hopeful

We are in serious crisis, and one or both of us is questioning the future

6. Do you want help learning how to stay together and improve — or whether to stay together at all?

How to stay together and improve

Whether to stay together at all

7. Which statement best fits your situation right now?

We want to strengthen our relationship and learn new skills

One of us is leaning out, the other leaning in

8. If you imagine beginning counseling tomorrow, which feels more accurate?

We’d both be ready to dig in

One or both of us would feel unsure/unready

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