Boundaries in Relationships
“Living a connected life is ultimately about setting boundaries and spending less time trying to win over people who don’t matter.”
You pride yourself on being a kind and helpful person.
Your most people’s go-to if they’re in a bind or need a last-minute favor, and most of the time you’re happy to help.
Most of the time.
But spending your days pouring into everyone else is leaving you feeling empty, resentful, and angry. Is it hard to admit that you’re angry? I bet.
Here’s the thing about boundaries (and there are many things): When we’re clear about what we’re able to give to others and what we need to hold onto for ourselves, boundaries are actually pretty easy.
Setting boundaries is not synonymous with being mean; it’s just that when we continually allow others to push and stretch us without our permission, then we become versions of ourselves that aren’t very pretty.
I hate saying “No” to people.
I often hear this phrase from many of my clients. I think living in the South makes it that much harder; southern women are expected to be everything to everyone and survive on 4 hours of sleep with a smile plastered on our faces (am I right?).
When did “No” become a cuss word?
As a Marriage and Family Therapist, I see all individuals as parts of a much larger system.
Your “system” can include your closest friends, your partner, or anyone else you share your life with. That means that you’re also welcome to invite any of these people into sessions with you at any time.
It’s one thing to work with someone individually, but once we’re able to engage more people in therapy, that’s when the magic happens. Change becomes more permanent, and your loved ones are better able to support the hard work that you’re putting into making your life better.
If you don’t want anyone to know you’re in therapy, that’s okay too. After all, this is about learning how to fill your cup first, and that means knowing what you need and honoring that. I’ll support you bringing parts of your system into therapy or choosing to focus on yourself.
How does it work?
First, you’ll schedule your free, 15-minute phone consultation so that I can answer any questions you may have about counseling. If you decide to move forward, then you can schedule your intake session with me over the phone or you can do it online.
Prior to your first appointment, you’ll receive a link to your own customized client portal.
There, you can complete all of your intake paperwork at your leisure from the comfort of your own home. There’s no need to arrive early to your first appointment, as I will already have had the chance to review your paperwork and learn about your unique situation.
The intake session is 1.5 hours, and we’ll use our time to make sure we’re the right fit.
We’ll talk a little bit about the challenges that have led you to therapy, as well as the goals that you’d like to achieve. I’ll ask a few questions about what you’ve tried so far to see if anything you’ve tried up until that point has helped.
I also offer customary care coordination with any other professionals involved in your treatment, whether that’s your primary care physician, OB/GYN, acupuncturist, or anyone else who’s helping you. I like to take a holistic approach so that we can all focus on helping you feel better as soon as possible.
How Often Will I Need To Come?
All of my clients start at a frequency of one session each week, and individual sessions are 55 minutes long. You may also opt to extend your sessions in 15-minute increments.
How long therapy lasts depends on your goals. Many of my clients choose to come weekly until they begin reaching their goals, at which point we taper sessions down to bi-weekly and then monthly for a short time.
My goal is to help you feel better and get on your way, so therapy does not have to be a long-term commitment. Schedule your free, 15-minute phone consultation and get started today.