“Perfectionism is a self-destructive and addictive belief system that fuels this primary thought: ‘If I look perfect and do everything perfectly, I can avoid or minimize the painful feelings of shame, judgment, and blame.’“
You used to wear your perfectionism as a badge of honor.
After all, your close attention to detail and high standards have played an important role in your success.
The problem is that your perfectionism is actually coming from a place of fear, and it’s beginning to make you feel paralyzed. After all, what’s the point of doing anything if you can’t guarantee that it will be done perfectly?
What I often find when I’m working with someone who struggles with perfectionism is that they learned very early on in life that being perfect was not only the best way — it was the only acceptable way.
Perfection equaled acceptance, and the only way to belong was to be the best: To be perfect.
To make things worse, perfectionism is often rewarded, so we don’t even realize the toll it’s taking on us until we’re buried under a massive list of to-do’s that we haven’t even begun.
I’ve also learned that many perfectionists grew up in homes that felt chaotic. Perfectionism brought a sense of structure or order when there was none. Unfortunately, this endless pursuit of perfectionism is just that: Endless.
Perfectionism often leads to procrastination, which then triggers shame and self-judgment.
While perfectionists are generally rewarded in the workplace, there is often collateral damage in the form of heightened anxiety and problems in relationships. Perfectionists often see the world in black-and-white, so stress can sometimes take on a life of it’s own.
Through therapy, perfectionists can finally experience freedom. It involves learning more about where these tendencies came from, how they’ve served you in your life, and how they’re holding you back.
Imagine what it would be like to break free from the chains of perfectionism.
You would feel confident taking calculated risks in your business.
You would be able to relax and be present with your family.
You would truly understand that your value and worth have nothing to do with how well you perform.
Instead of procrastinating on important tasks, you would feel excited to get started and figure it all out as you go.
I can help you get there.
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